Take self care when needed. Back in rotation 8.12.19
“Some of the greatest battles will be fought within the silent chambers of your own soul.”
-Ezra Taft Benson
Are your thoughts, words, feelings and actions in congruence? Are they compatible? In harmony? Often what we think, is not in harmony with what we say, feel, or how we act. If you say you want something but think you can’t have it, you are more likely to lack confidence and not act on what you say you want. It’s time to be real. This week, challenge yourself to find harmony between your thoughts, words, feelings and actions. You deserve greatness. Act like it!
Worrying is praying for something you don’t want to happen.
- Robert Downey Jr.
Can you count how many hours you have spent in unproductive worry? Did it resolve your crisis? Did it help you find a solution? Worrying is praying for something you don’t want to happen. If this quote is a chin check, this week I challenge you to cease and desist worrying. It isn’t an easy habit to break but we must disrupt the pattern.
Changing patterns begins with identifying them. Let’s Identify and stop when we find ourselves praying for what we don’t want to happen. Affirm the good, never the bad.
“It's not what you say out of your mouth that determines your life, it's what you whisper to yourself that has the most power!”
― Robert T. Kiyosaki
It’s not surprising however, that sometimes what comes out of our mouths is what we have been whispering to ourselves for a long time. The jabs of fear, uncertainty, inferiority, lack and low expectations that we don’t usually dare to say aloud unless in jest. These whispers are so powerful because they are attached to emotion that allows these crippling messages to embed in our psyche and cause reflex responses when faced with a ton of life’s situations. These thoughts, steal our confidence, self-esteem and self worth. This week, let’s work to identify the insidious, self doubting whispers that keep us from being our best. We cannot be our biggest hater and thrive. It’s time to thrive.
Growth is painful. Change is painful. But, nothing is as painful as staying stuck where you do not belong.
-N. R. Narayana Murthy
We know that change is inevitable. Few things stay the same. Most of us however, can share how we’ve talked about the change that we want for our lives without the action to support. It is rarely time or circumstance that prevent us from making necessary changes. Though we blame one or the other. Our mindset however, along with the behaviors that have become habits, is the biggest obstacle to the change that we want to see in ourselves and in our lives. This week, let’s challenge one of our ways of being that serves to keep us stuck in an unproductive loop. Do one thing differently. Bring different energy. Even if the response isn’t what we desire, continue to pursue the change. After all, we are doing it for our benefit. Make the effort because you are worth the effort!
The smallest change in perspective can transform a life. What tiny attitude adjustment might turn your world around? -Oprah Winfrey
The way we interpret things is not always the way things are. We filter everything through our personal lens of experience and react or respond accordingly. Sometimes we create in our mind, a worse narrative than actually exists. This week I challenge us to pay attention to how we see things. How does the narrative we are telling ourselves make us feel? If it doesn’t serve us, we must make an adjustment. A small shift in perspective can make a huge shift in our lived experience this week. Let’s do that!
“The elimination diet: Remove anger, regret, resentment, guilt, blame, and worry. Then watch your health, and life, improve.” ― Charles F. Glassman
We can justify many of the ills that make us ill. In some cases, we have become so use to living in these states, that we don’t even recognize them in us. Anger, regret, resentment, guilt, blame and worry serve the purpose of keeping us mentally stuck in a place that does us no good. This week’s challenge is to identify the ills that make us ill.
Once you identify the corrosion , extract any useful meaning and then reject it’s hold on you. Heal and free yourself at the same darn time. Your mind and body deserve it.
Our subconscious mind stores all our negative beliefs, complexes and behavioral patterns.
How we respond today is a cumulative effect of what has occurred through out our lives. It is the root of the patterns that allow us to survive, strive or thrive. This week, let’s challenge the patterns that allow us to merely survive. These patterns represent the blockade that keep us from living our best life. Let’s challenge ourselves to see when we are giving energy to the patterns that keep us stuck in an unproductive pattern. The start of being better is identifying what you are doing that keeps you from being better. Let’s do the work.
“Being brave means knowing that when you fail, you don't fail forever”
Lana Del Rey
When she was 5, my daughter researched grey wolves. One of her conclusions was that I wasn’t as brave as a grey wolf. We all thought it hilarious but it was also true. Not necessarily the grey wolf comparison, but the lack of bravery . I wasn’t always brave enough to use my voice and speak my mind. I wasn’t brave enough to stop doing work that crushed my spirit. I knew how I failed to be brave and it sapped my spirit even more.
Most people equate bravery with physical strength. For me, it’s been about overcoming mental demons, that equate to the fear of failure and the unknown. The reality is that everyday we wake and live every minute in the unknown. What would you do if you stopped letting the fear limit you? Who could you be? This week, challenge yourself to exhibit some bravery. Even if only in a small way. Feel the fear/failure and do it anyway and again!
"To love yourself right now, just as you are, is to give yourself heaven. Don't wait until you die. If you wait, you die now. If you love, you live now." -Alan Cohen
We often postpone pursuing self-care for fear of appearing or being accused of selfishness. If taking the time to discover, engage, and excel in the things that bring you joy is deemed selfish, be that. To excel at anything, practice is a must. Practice loving all of you in the now to be fully available to share your overflow when you desire.
Judgment traps you within the limitations of your comparisons. It inhibits freedom.
We make judgments based on our experiences. Where we are today is a culmination of the good and bad judgments that we have made for ourselves and in relation to others. This week challenge yourself to suspend judgment. That is, to delay making a decision about something or someone until you know more about it. Some of our snap judgments have snapped us into some unpleasant situations. Let’s suspend to setup for success.
“It's not what we do once in a while that shapes our lives. It's what we do consistently.”
― Anthony Robbins
Life is governed by the things that we do consistently. You cannot become an expert without consistently working at your craft. You cannot succeed if you consistently fail to follow through. Our lives are a reflection of our consistent behavior. If you want better outcomes, look at the patterns that define your behavior. When you thoughtfully revise what you consistently do, you may find the outcomes you desire are your reality.
I am crazy enough to think I owe the world a change.
When we think a certain way, we feel a certain way, and then we act. This week, challenge yourself to pause. Pause long enough to determine whether what you think is based in fact or shrouded in a past pain perspective. It’s an important distinction. Responding from past pain will continue the pattern. Give yourself time to think different, act different, be different.
“Our wounds are often the openings into the best and most beautiful part of us.” - David Richo
The change that we want to see really begins on the inside. When you make the effort to invest in healing and building the opportunity areas in your life, you will perceive and respond to the world in a different manner. That difference will be reflected back to you. This week, work on healing an area that you have chosen to mask. The world needs the power of the full you. You do too!
Failure will never overtake me if my determination to succeed is strong enough
-The Greatest Salesman in the World, Og Mandino
Sometimes we are so focused on the destination or desired outcome, that we underestimate the importance of the plan. If one of the foundations of the plan isn’t flexibility or adaptability, the desired outcome may be fantasy. This week, know that if things don’t work out as you planned, that is the start of your new plan. Adjust, adapt and achieve!
Quote of the week: "Your personality defines your personal reality”
- Joe Dispenza
How much thought did you put into who you are? If who you are today evolved from a fair bit of outside input, who and what could you be if you were intentional about you are becoming? The old you can’t take you where the new you wants you to go. Growth requires change. The time is now!
If you want change you have to start somewhere. Go small to go big!